Specialist Support
Relationship Counselling
One-to-one BACP accredited counselling to think about the relationships in your life, in person in Seven Kings, Ilford, and online across the UK. This is individual therapy: I work with one person at a time rather than seeing couples together.
What You Might Notice
What people bring to these sessions
Relationship difficulties are rarely only about the other person. Often what surfaces is a pattern that repeats across several relationships, including family ones.
The same argument on a loop
Different trigger, identical shape. Knowing how it will go and still not being able to steer out of it.
Doubting your own account
Coming away from conversations unsure what actually happened. It is worth understanding how to recognise gaslighting, including within families.
Giving far more than you get
Managing everyone else and quietly going without. Over time this stops feeling like a choice.
Dealing with someone difficult
Trying to hold a relationship with a person whose behaviour is hard to predict. Reading on narcissism may offer some language for it.
How Therapy Helps
Working on relationships individually
Working one to one has a particular advantage: the focus stays on what you can influence. We look at your part, your limits and your choices, without needing the other person in the room or on side.
Much of this work involves tracing where the pattern was learned. Family expectations, cultural obligation and early experience all shape what feels normal in a relationship, and the particular pressures in South Asian families come up often in my practice.
If you are mainly concerned about someone else rather than yourself, this guide to supporting a loved one is a useful place to start.
If any relationship you are in feels unsafe, please look at the Crisis Help page, which lists organisations that can help immediately.
Practical Details
How sessions work
Sessions last 50 minutes and usually run weekly at the same time, in person in Seven Kings, Ilford, or by secure video anywhere in the UK.
Face-to-face in Ilford
A quiet, discreet ground-floor room at 59 Cameron Road, Ilford IG3 8LG, a few minutes on foot from Seven Kings station, with free off-street parking.
Online across the UK
Secure video sessions if travelling is difficult, or you would simply rather meet from home.
Day and evening slots
Weekdays 9:00am to 2:30pm, plus evening appointments Monday to Thursday, 5:00pm to 7:00pm.
A free first call
Start with a free 15-minute phone consultation before you commit to anything.
Further Reading
Articles on relationships
More across the blog.
Take the First Step
Book a free 15-minute consultation
If you are not sure whether individual therapy is the right format, ask me on the free call.